Watching a child descend into screaming, wailing and lashing out is no fun for anyone, but as a parent it is always your responsibility to deal with your Children’s Temper Tantrums. For some parents this is easy, but other parents find it difficult to stop a temper tantrum and even bewildering to contemplate what has happened and why their children act out like that.
Figuring out if you handle temper tantrums well is an important part of dealing with your child’s anger, sadness and frustration. Answer each question of the quiz below, add up your answers and match the total to the explanations at the end to determine how well you handle temper tantrums.
1. When your child begins crying in public, you:
a) Draw him or her aside to find out the problem.
b) Look him or her over for physical harm and then ignore the tears.
c) Ignore him or her. Whatever it is, (s)he’ll get over it eventually.
2. Every night at bedtime when your child has a temper tantrum, you:
a) Look for a pattern and then make changes to the routine that might help.
b) Install a night-light, figure that will be enough, then let him or her cry in bed.
c) Send him or her to bed earlier. Clearly (s)he’s just tired.
3. You know your child is prone to tantrums during football matches, so you:
a) Wait for a frustrating moment and jump in to praise your child before a tantrum starts.
b) Chat with him or her before a match about better behaviour this time.
c) Roll your eyes and sigh when the tantrum inevitably occurs.
4. Tantrums often erupt before dinner time. To avoid them, you:
a) Make sure to keep a small snack on hand to head off overwhelming hunger.
b) Keep children informed of how long until dinner is ready.
c) Banish them from the kitchen so you don’t have to witness another tantrum.
5. When a temper tantrum begins at home, you:
a) Suggest another activity to distract your child.
b) Tell your child if (s)he doesn’t stop soon you’ll take away the toys.
c) Send your child to his or her room for the rest of the day.
6. When talking to your child during a temper tantrum, you:
a) Get down to eye-level and keep your voice steady.
b) Raise your voice above the shrieks and wails.
c) Never talk to your child during a temper tantrum, it’s too annoying.
7. When a temper tantrum is over, you usually:
a) Talk with your child about other ways to deal with frustration in the future.
b) Send your child out to apologise for causing a scene.
c) Reward your child for finally settling down.
8. When a child becomes physically out of control during a temper tantrum, you:
a) Offer a hug or other physical hold and reassurance that you still love him or her.
b) Lead him or her away from other people who could get hurt.
c) Figure (s)he’ll stop carrying on if she gets hurt.
9. You usually discipline or punish a child after a tantrum:
a) When the situation warrants it.
b) Most of the time so that you are consistent.
c) Always. (S)he deserves it.
10. When you and your child witness someone else having a temper tantrum, you:
a) Let your child talk about it if (s)he so desires.
b) Ask your child questions about what (s)he witnessed.
c) Tell your child that’s how silly she looks during a tantrum.
How Well Do You Handle Temper Tantrums?
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