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Questionnaire: Does Your Child Have ADHD?

By: Sarah Edwards - Updated: 8 Jun 2017 | comments*Discuss
 
Adhd Attention Hyperactivity Disorder

If you think that your child might be suffering from a particular condition, but has yet to be diagnosed, it is worthwhile speaking to other parents, and researching the behaviour that your child is displaying. Self diagnosis is not recommended, but this website is full of information and advice that might help you to get the help you need for you and your family to manage a situation.

Try looking at these questions below to see if any of the character, personality and behaviour traits relate to your child. It might be the first step in the right direction if you think you need some help and advice. If you have a partner or someone else who is actively involved in caring for your child, it might be a good idea to ask them to complete the questionnaire as well, so that you get a well rounded response to the questions and can build up a true picture of your situation.

Contact your child’s teacher, SENCO, GP or other professionals for further help and advice, as they will be able to tailor their help and treatment to your individual child and their specific needs.

Does your child appear to have poor concentration or low levels of concentration and attention?

YES/NO

Does your child sometimes have a tendency to be easily distracted at school and home?

YES/NO

Does your child display restless and fidgety behaviour, on a regular basis?

YES/NO

Does your child have difficulty sitting down, or remaining still when told to do so?

YES/NO

Does your child have difficulty following instructions, and appear to get confused easily?

YES/NO

Does your child find it difficult to wait their turn in a group situation?

YES/NO

Does your child have a tendency to interrupt others when they are talking and talk over them?

YES/NO

Does your child have difficulty playing quietly?

YES/NO

Does your child often move from one incomplete activity to another, and get bored easily?

YES/NO

Does your child appear to have little or no sense of danger, and take part in potentially dangerous activities without seeming to think about the consequences of their actions?

YES/NO

When you have completed the questionnaire, observe your child’s behaviour closely to see if you have missed anything. On this site you will find a wealth of information written by experts in child behaviour. You will have access to case studies and information about how to get help and further advice to help you and your child.

If you can answer yes to most of the questions above then it might be worth consulting your doctor and other health care professionals. It is also a good idea to talk to your child’s teachers. Even if you have answered yes to some of the questions, it would still be a good idea to seek some professional advice.

Impulsive Actions

Remember that children with ADHD also sometimes act impulsively and seem to have little or no control over their actions and speech at times.

Different children...different symptoms...different treatments

Different children who have ADHD display different symptoms. The problems caused by ADHD can have a very negative effect on a child’s life, and can affect the ability of a child to learn, and impact upon their self-esteem. Although there is no sure, ADHD can be managed and treated using a variety of methods, and even a change in diet can have a positive impact.

If you can answer yes to most of the questions above then it might be worth consulting your doctor and other health care professionals. It is also a good idea to talk to your child’s teachers. Even if you have answered yes to some of the questions, it would still be a good idea to seek some professional advice.

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Hi My son is 6 years old is in year 1. Since reception(4/5 years old) my son has been getting into constant trouble with the teachers and head teacher. They have to sit him at a table near the teacher so she can constantly watch him and monitor him whilst he does his work. He has never sat down quietly to do his work....his always fidgeting, playing with his pencil or flicking it across the room. He hides under the table or just wonders around the room while everyone is doing their work. When the teacher tells the class what work has to be done he will always have to be told more then twice what needs doing....he cannot be left alone to do an activity because he just wonders off or messes his work up. Writing he does good at times but then he starts to do other things on his book like drawing etc. Everyday he hits children,his starting to stick his middle finger up at kids even though we as agents don't sware at all. He throws their belongings cus he finds it fun or hurts them....he sees it as fun all the time,he doesn't believe he annoys people...he doesnt even realise what his doing is wrong. He never says sorry if he does anything it just doesn't click in him to say this. He wants to be on the go all the time....he hates reading for long periods...(more then 5 mins) he gets all fidgety if I do his home work...he starts talking about other things while I'm trying to explain his work with him....its so frustrating and tiring. Having this problem at school and at home. I have 2 other kids and their totally different. I bring them up with good manners especially how to be with people...but he doesn't understand things properly...instructions he can't follow...he does the opposite and I can only give him 1 or 2 instructions at a time. Please can you help me as I find this depressing.Thanks
Ummi - 8-Jun-17 @ 1:23 PM
my son is 9 years old,hes very clumbsy,never seems to listen im constantly repeating myself to him every morning,hes started to soil himself now,and its so frustrating
kel - 29-May-17 @ 9:25 AM
Hi my daughter has just turned 5. She has always been extremely hyper. She was the 1 child at children's groups that wouldn't sit down for circle time I was always running after her trying to get her to sit down. She's always been very loud, has to be louder then everybody else yet hates anyone or anything else being loud. She will cover her ears & say it's too noisy. If I'm trying to do something she is always grabbing at whatever it is I'm doing & won't stop when told or physically removed. She climbs on all my furniture as though it's a climbing frame and constantly runs up & down. She will encourage her 2 Year old brother to chase her but even when he's tired from it she still tries to drag him by the scruff of his collar up & down the room. More often then not she won't listen & if I ask her to repeat what I've just said she doesn't have a clue. She hates it if I have to show her how to do something even if she doesn't know how to do it. She thinks she knows everything & I'm stupid. She has a tendency to get giddy a lot but it's a very stupid giddiness, which I can't calm her down from. There is nothing I can do with her most of the time but especially when she's giddy. She makes random noises throughout the day, which seem a little tourettes type noises. She is always talking to imaginary friends who apparently tell her how to do things. She has no stranger awareness which really worries me. She's always been a fussy eater due to the texture & when she's stressed needs a comforter, which she calls feel nice. I can't get her to sit still at home to eat her meals if I tell her once I tell her a dozen or so times. School say she's fine there yet she has melt downs some days when she comes home. She has to have help getting off the school bus from her peers as everything from her school bag is usually chucked on the floor. 1 of the children that help her mentioned that she is very loud & that she's like it at school. Her ballet tutor has also mentioned she's very loud for a little girl & that she never got tired whilst on a summer camp there. I can't get help with her & consultant told me until school flags something up there's nothing he could do. I feel like a failure & that her behaviour is my fault.
Adela - 28-May-17 @ 11:23 PM
I am concerned about my oldest daughter who has behaviour problems she is 8 years old not following instructions leaving class without permission taking a LeapPad into the girls toilet going on the Internet without permission leaving the class without permission I am very concerned about this due to more girls in the house it is very hard could you please help out thank you
Shab - 26-May-17 @ 2:38 PM
Hello my son is 4, he gets very angry very quickly and has massive meltdowns that last 30-40mins each time, these can be came on by nothing sometimes others it's Because you will not play a game with him (because busy with other children) when we have family over or he sees his friends out side of nursery he don't make eye contact even some days at nursery he will not look at staff for at least 20-30mins until he's ready to. He clings to me a lot. Loves to play board games (Ludo, monopoly, guess who list is endless) he has notsense of fear he had a meltdown at my daughters school a few weeks back and nearly ran in front of a car :( when he has these there is no way ofcalming him down he has to do it in his own time. Is there anything I can do to help him while he's having these meltdowns or let him ride it out?
Bella - 24-May-17 @ 10:27 AM
Stel- Your Question:
Hi I have a 4 year old son and I'm worried about his behaviour. He can sit on the sofa watching a film or on the iPad all quietly then all of a sudden feels the need to shout or make a really loud noise or even just start running around the front room. I'm always having to ask him to stop something more than twice. He gets carried away playing with other children and can get rough with them. Or likes to wind them up. He still wakes once during the night for a bottle of milk. He always runs off from me when we are out. I'm hoping his just being a naughty child that I can put right!! Please help, what can I do?

Our Response:
It sounds like natural behaviour to us. He shouldn't really be have milk in the night at this age, especially from a bottle (a terrible effect on the teeth and he's at an age where he should be sleeping through the nights).
KidsBehaviour - 22-May-17 @ 12:37 PM
Hi I have a 4 year old son and I'm worried about his behaviour. He can sit on the sofa watching a film or on the iPad all quietly then all of a sudden feels the need to shout or make a really loud noise or even just start running around the front room. I'm always having to ask him to stop something more than twice. He gets carried away playing with other children and can get rough with them. Or likes to wind them up. He still wakes once during the night for a bottle of milk. He always runs off from me when we are out. I'm hoping his just being a naughty child that I can put right!! Please help, what can I do?
Stel - 21-May-17 @ 9:26 AM
Sally - Your Question:
Hello, My son is 4 in a weeks time & he is hyperactive, so loud but doesnt like loud noises & most of the time pulls his ears down & puts his hands over them.He hates with avenance, hand driers! & will scream & cry if he comes into contact with one.He has no sense of danger & will put his hand onto the glass top oven when on or run onto the road, he was nearly hit by a car not so long ago as he loosed my hand.He cant sit still not even at the table & always figets,he cant sit with an activity as he gets bored & moves onto something else etc. he will line up cars & if anyone moves one he shouts & screams, he will kick them all over the place & grits his teeth & spits in temper.And we cant take him out into a restaurant as he starts figetering as soon as we get there.He doesnt seem to have any any sort of social skills as hes not good at making friends even though he has friends.he will get into peoples faces & shout or make silly noises which he does everyday, all day, He has been assesed for Autisum & was told he was fine & doesnt have any tendunces (thankfully) but hes so naughty & such a handful I dont kbow who else to speak to as his nursery say hes fine?

Our Response:
If he's fine at nursery, the assessments are probably right and he doesn't have any autistic tendencies etc. Ask your health visitor or GP for details of any parent classes etc that will help you with his behaviour. You could also try:
The National Parenting Initiative
or
Family lives
KidsBehaviour - 19-May-17 @ 12:12 PM
Hello, My son is 4 in a weeks time & he is hyperactive, so loud but doesnt like loud noises & most of the time pulls his ears down & puts his hands over them. He hates with avenance, hand driers! & will scream & cry if he comes into contact with one. He has no sense of danger & will put his hand onto the glass top oven when on or run onto the road, he was nearly hit by a car not so long ago as he loosed my hand. He cant sit still not even at the table & always figets,he cant sit with an activity as he gets bored & moves onto something else etc.. he will line up cars & if anyone moves one he shouts & screams, he will kick them all over the place & grits his teeth & spits in temper. And we cant take him out into a restaurant as he starts figetering as soon as we get there. He doesnt seem to have any any sort of social skills as hes not good at making friends even though he has friends..he will get into peoples faces & shout or make silly noises which he does everyday, all day, He has been assesed for Autisum & was told he was fine & doesnt have any tendunces (thankfully) but hes so naughty & such a handful i dont kbow who else to speak to as his nursery say hes fine?
Sally - 18-May-17 @ 10:56 AM
My son is 6 years old and always been a handful. His dad was the same as a child, but we've noticed so much throughout his years. He cannot walk, he either skips, jumps or runs. He hates loud noises, even though he is loud! He is scared of dogs, bees (anything that moves basically)! He cannot sit still, but has a very good imagination. I could go on and on.... I wonder if it's his personality or maybe something else that would should get him help for?
Rach - 12-May-17 @ 8:53 PM
Bhuvan - Your Question:
Hi ,I have 2years 4months old son. He is so active and naughty. but He can't able to eat him self. when we feed to him, he uses his tong to push the half of the spoon back. Even we try by hand. it's not working. and Also When we call them to come. He start to run back to opposite side. when we ask to say his name he doesn't try say. But He will sing some of the rhymes. He is so addicted to using mobiles for listening rhymes. but If he found the ABC related rhymes. he skips by him self. So times he was paly with toy. and it may slip from his hand down then. he started to cry and roll on the floor. even we try to pickup. he use his whole strength to stretch it up like fool. some time he will come cry in front of us with out no reason. when we ask. he do the roll as explained earlier. we are staying in another country, When my mom or Brother calls me and ask him to show then he will see the display for 2 mins and after that start to run & hide behind the sofa. even some time While using speaking on mobile he will rob and cut the call and start to watch rhymes. So I Try stop him by saying no & few time hit slowly. Shouting him. Due to that now a days when I entered in to home. he start to make cry humming and makes me irritating. When I shouting, he makes sshh to me. I know shouting & Hitting him is mistake. but I can't able to control him. Even for feed I take some stick to threaten him then only he sit with place and eating. When ever Me or his mother start to Play he not listen. only he doing what ever he need. I have a suspect of ADHD to him. Please Guide me.As a father I'm So feel about to treat him like that and need to Grow him in right way. Your Kind answer may change our future.

Our Response:
You should visit your GP to check that there is not another problem...you may also be referred to parenting classes etc.
KidsBehaviour - 11-May-17 @ 2:14 PM
Hi , I have 2years 4months old son. He is so active and naughty. but He can't able to eat him self. when we feed to him, he uses his tong to push the half of the spoon back. Even we try by hand.. it's not working. and Also When we call them to come... He start to run back to opposite side. when we ask to say his name he doesn't try say. But He will sing some of the rhymes.. He is so addicted to using mobiles for listeningrhymes. but If he found the ABC related rhymes.. he skips by him self... So times he was paly with toy.. and it may slip from his hand down then.. he started to cry and roll on the floor. even we try to pickup.. he use his whole strength to stretch it up like fool. some time he will come cry in front of us with out no reason. when we ask.. he do the roll as explained earlier. we are staying in another country, When my mom or Brother calls me and ask him to show then he will see the display for 2 mins and after that start to run & hide behind the sofa. even some time While using speaking on mobile he will rob and cut the call and start to watch rhymes. So I Try stop him by saying no & few time hit slowly. Shouting him. Due to that now a days when I entered in to home. he start to make cry humming and makes me irritating. When I shouting, he makes sshh to me. I know shouting & Hitting him is mistake. but I can't able to control him.. Even for feed I take some stick to threaten him then only he sit with place and eating. When ever Me or his mother start to Play he not listen. only he doing what ever he need. I have a suspect of ADHD to him. Please Guide me. As a father I'm So feel about to treat him like that and need to Grow him in right way. Your Kind answer may change our future.
Bhuvan - 10-May-17 @ 1:29 PM
Hi Stevie, My son is now 4 and half, he has same behaviour, no fear, climbing and hyper active, his food is equal to nothing, he also rules home, and hit his head against floor if stopped or being opposed. My elder daughter is no 6, he is getting on her nerve all the time. He is too bossy. Wants to know if he has gotten some cure or way to your son problem. Looking forward to your feedback.
Shah - 5-May-17 @ 10:31 AM
hi,2.5yrs old not speaking just babbling. how can i do please help.
shell - 28-Apr-17 @ 8:23 PM
Lizla - Your Question:
Having a ten year old son who's behaving very strange lately me and his father separated 2013 staying with him 2016 met the guy an married me then we stayed together, then by 2016dec he started the behavior he not focusing at all, interrupting when others talking, crying easily, not sitting in the house up and down,screaming at night calling me and wake up early ,being stubborn please I need help my child is seek

Our Response:
Firstly try talking to him about what he might be worried about. Ask at school if they are seeing similar behaviour problems and what they can suggest. Sorry but we cannot really give any more advice as there is so little information here.
KidsBehaviour - 19-Apr-17 @ 11:50 AM
Having a ten year old son who's behaving very strange lately me and his father separated 2013 staying with him 2016 met the guy an married me then we stayed together, then by 2016dec he started the behavior he not focusing at all, interrupting when others talking, crying easily, not sitting in the house up and down,screaming at night calling me and wake up early ,being stubborn please I need help my child is seek
Lizla - 16-Apr-17 @ 7:03 PM
My son is 10, I split from his dad when he was 2. I also have a 16yr old daughter to whom in very close to. My son constantly acts silly, makes noses and jumps around. I've looked at the adhd symptoms and those are the only ones he displays. Other people I've asked have said he might have it, some say he's just a boisterous child. The problem is, his behaviour is irritating, and I now have very little patience with him after years of dealing with it. My son and daughter have literally no relationship and it's affecting our family life. My daughter says he doesn't behave like this when he's with his dad and my son doesn't show me much respect. Does anyone have any helpful advice on whether I can do anything to curb this behaviour? My son is such a loving, sensitive when he's not being irritating and silly??
Jen - 7-Mar-17 @ 7:49 AM
Kavari - Your Question:
Hi I have two sons. The older is 11 years old and the other is 5 years old. I am concerned about the 5 year old. Within the last two weeks the teacher complained everyday with his behaviour. He is full of energy, behaves incorrectly, limited attention span, never listens to instructions. At home he is the same. I am so concerned about him and not sure what to do. Please advise

Our Response:
What advice has the teacher given? What consequences do you put in place when he misbehaves? Is good behaviour consistently rewarded? Does he get enough exercise? Is his diet health (without too much refined sugar/processed foods etc)? Sorry these are all questions you need to ask yourself and use, along with the advice in our website and elsewhere to see if his behaviour can be changed. If this behaviour change has been extreme and has only occurred in the past two weeks, it's worth looking to see if something has happened to provoke it. Ask at school, his friends' parents, other family members and your son himself, to see if he's unhappy, anxious, unsure about something that's happened to him etc.
KidsBehaviour - 28-Feb-17 @ 10:43 AM
Hi I have two sons. The older is 11 years old and the other is 5 years old. I am concerned about the 5 year old. Within the last two weeks the teacher complained everyday with his behaviour. He is full of energy, behaves incorrectly, limited attention span, never listens to instructions. At home he is the same. I am so concerned about him and not sure what to do. Please advise
Kavari - 26-Feb-17 @ 4:10 PM
My daughter is 10 years old. Every year her teachers were happy about her but I have realised she doesn't have fucox. Her results at the end of the year was worth. She doesn't like study and read books. Just she likes watching TV and playing game .
Lola - 16-Feb-17 @ 11:41 PM
@jarlmum my son was diagnosed with autism at 2.5.They can do it,i suggest a different health visitor or ask for a development check, i had this done for two of my children on is currently undergoing development checks and the other is Autistic.
Hg1990 - 16-Feb-17 @ 3:24 PM
Family6 - Your Question:
My son is 14 years old, was seen by a speech therapist at 4. Diagnosed as articulation problem, no need to go back it would rectify it's self in time. Which it did! At 5 years old was diagnosed with ODD ( oppositional defiant disorder). Since then nothing. He is 14 years old now, behind his peers academically, short attention span overall unless it's a computer game. Then he can sit staring at that screen for hours on end. Very lazy, poor sense of dress and personal hygiene. Poor presentation in school work, can't spell. Cannot use cutlery properly, severe lack of social graces. Very argumentative, especially towards younger sibling, has been known to hit out at her also. He doesn't fit the criteria for ODD, in regard to poor parenting, arguing at home etc, or harsh parenting. He has 3 siblings all of whom are high achievers, youngest being 11 years old and has already surpassed my 14 year old academically. My 14 year old son is frustrated by this. They are all different, and we accept them for who they are. I am strict with the 14 year old, but after completing the 12 week parenting programme, it suits him to have clear, firm rules and parenting style. I am just wondering should I get him reassessed as I feel he is not progressing as he should be. I am concerned for him.

Our Response:
Do go in and speak to school staff about it, they'll be able to tell you what they think and where/how to get an assessment. If a problem is found they may be able to secure funding to get him extra help.
KidsBehaviour - 13-Feb-17 @ 10:45 AM
My son is 14 years old, was seen by a speech therapist at 4. Diagnosed as articulation problem, no need to go back it would rectify it's self in time. Which it did! At 5 years old was diagnosed with ODD ( oppositional defiant disorder). Since then nothing. He is 14 years old now, behind his peers academically, short attention span overall unless it's a computer game. Then he can sit staring at that screen for hours on end. Very lazy, poor sense of dress and personal hygiene. Poor presentation in school work, can't spell. Cannot use cutlery properly, severe lack of social graces. Very argumentative, especially towards younger sibling, has been known to hit out at her also. He doesn't fit the criteria for ODD, in regard to poor parenting, arguing at home etc, or harsh parenting. He has 3 siblings all of whom are high achievers, youngest being 11 years old and has already surpassed my 14 year old academically. My 14 year old son is frustrated by this. They are all different, and we accept them for who they are. I am strict with the 14 year old, but after completing the 12 week parenting programme, it suits him to have clear, firm rules and parenting style. I am just wondering should I get him reassessed as I feel he is not progressing as he should be. I am concerned for him.
Family6 - 10-Feb-17 @ 9:51 AM
HI I have a 2.5 year old who has very limited language skills. He finds it difficult to keep attention and gets bored very easily. He seems to give an attitude that he doesn't need to talk as he can get his point across by hitting, kicking, headbanging or throwing things often intentionally at everyone in his path. He recently got glasses and these have calmed him down a little but he has no sense of fear and tends to have to be told to do things more than once. Have been referred to have his hearing checked and attending speech and language appointments. I have asked my HV about the possibility of autism/ADD and have just been told hes too young and they doubt it is but I don't seem to be getting anywhere fast. He's always been late meeting his development deadlines.
jarlmum - 23-Jan-17 @ 10:04 AM
Stevie - Your Question:
Hi my son is 4 he is child number 3 out of 6. He is so different then Al my other children he is so naught he hits me Al the time smashes things to get my attention hurts his self if I say no. He has hyper mobility. I can not turn my back on him for a second as he hits my 2 year old daughter Al the time for nothing he could just be sitting there and my daughter wil be playing with her pram he wil just run over and start hitting her so hard for nothing to me also. He does with his other siblings to. My other children are so we behaved and never have hit me I tret them Al the same but still he never lissens he always want Al the attention. He wil not eat anything he has tiny little nibbles of the food but that's it av sat with him and begged and pleaded with him to eat but still nothing. He swears and rules the house. My youngest is 5 months and so scared if he hurts her as he throws everything Al the time. Hits his siblings with toys or anything he can get hold of Al the time. He is constantly climbing on everything and has no feer. He has drawn every were. Get up daft a clock in morning and wake the to oldest kids up 8 and 6 year old also waking the hole house up the process. I just need some advise what have I done wrong I feel like such a bad mam. I don't no why he does it this is a happy house hold me and his dad my husband are in a loving marrige were always here for our children my husband work 5 days a week so I feel to blame for his behaviour what shud I do. There is loads of more stuff I could wright about my son. I can say witch I don't if it make a difference but his dad had adhd as a child I still think he still has a bit now. Please any advice would be great

Our Response:
It owould be worth doing some extra investigation to see how his behaviour is at nursery (or school if he's started). If your other children show no similar problems, it may be that there is some underlying reason for his behaviour and perhaps your GP might be able to suggest some options for further investigation.
KidsBehaviour - 20-Jan-17 @ 12:52 PM
Hi my son is 4 he is child number 3 out of 6. He is so different then Al my other children he is so naught he hits me Al the time smashes things to get my attention hurts his self if I say no. He has hyper mobility. I can not turn my back on him for a second as he hits my 2 year old daughter Al the time for nothing he could just be sitting there and my daughter wil be playing with her pram he wil just run over and start hitting her so hard for nothing to me also. He does with his other siblings to. My other children are so we behaved and never have hit me I tret them Al the same but still he never lissens he always want Al the attention. He wil not eat anything he has tiny little nibbles of the food but that's it av sat with him and begged and pleaded with him to eat but still nothing. He swears and rules the house. My youngest is 5 months and so scared if he hurts her as he throws everything Al the time. Hits his siblings with toys or anything he can get hold of Al the time. He is constantly climbing on everything and has no feer. He has drawn every were. Get up daft a clock in morning and wake the to oldest kids up 8 and 6 year old also waking the hole house up the process. I just need some advise what have I done wrong I feel like such a bad mam. I don't no why he does it this is a happy house hold me and his dad my husband are in a loving marrige were always here for our children my husband work 5 days a week so I feel to blame for his behaviour what shud I do. There is loads of more stuff I could wright about my son. I can say witch I don't if it make a difference but his dad had adhd as a child I still think he still has a bit now. Please any advice would be great
Stevie - 19-Jan-17 @ 12:33 PM
lauras - Your Question:
Hi, my daughter is almost 7. She was born prematurely at 33 weeks due to pre-eclampsia but with no other complications for her.For as long as I remember she has been argumentative, has little sense of people's feelings, is impatient in waiting (to play games, to be served dinner,etc), has angry outbursts, lashes out at her brother (he's 4 years old), gets jealous if we pay him any attention, starts fights with our friends children, lacks concentration in school, requires extra support for learning, doesn't like any food in particular, only wears clothes she picks herself. The list seems endless to be honest.I've always just thought that she'd grow out of it but on this particular occassion, she has been in the same disruptive state of mind for over 2 weeks now and I'm seriously starting to question whether it's a 'spoiled child' (she isn't overly spoiled and is encouraged to 'earn' rewards rather than just be given them) thing or something more. Any help, anything at all, is appreciated :)

Our Response:
It's worth asking at her school to see whether they think there are any additional issues that can be addressed. Your GP might also be able to offer you some advice or perhaps a referral to a specialist - to have her assessed.
KidsBehaviour - 14-Nov-16 @ 11:17 AM
Hi, my daughter is almost 7. She was born prematurely at 33 weeks due to pre-eclampsia but with no other complications for her. For as long as I remember she has been argumentative, has little sense of people's feelings, is impatient in waiting (to play games, to be served dinner,etc), has angry outbursts, lashes out at her brother (he's 4 years old), gets jealous if we pay him any attention, starts fights with our friends children, lacks concentration in school, requires extra support for learning, doesn't like any food in particular, only wears clothes she picks herself. The list seems endless to be honest. I've always just thought that she'd grow out of it but on this particular occassion, she has been in the same disruptive state of mind for over 2 weeks now and I'm seriously starting to question whether it's a 'spoiled child' (she isn't overly spoiled and is encouraged to 'earn' rewards rather than just be given them) thing or something more. Any help, anything at all, is appreciated :)
lauras - 12-Nov-16 @ 1:01 PM
Sammy - Your Question:
My daughter is just turned 4 and since she was 2 she's been "naughty" and we passed it off as terrible 2s to start with but now we cant and its getting worse she never listens and tries to argue with me and my partner. If we say no she screams the house down. She tries to play me and my partner off in front of each other.we tell her off and she won't stand still. she's constantly on the move jumping about on furniture which we have told her over and over not to do. she's always climbing and told her she can't do this as she goes near windows very recently opened her window which I could get over luckily it's got safety features only her fingers would get out but that's to not the point,.there's so many things we have seen her do.she just won't listen and is constantly running about and clingy she hardly plays with toys she sits beside me all day long and follows me everywhere I can't stop her,she is a clever little girl and her behaviour just doesn't make sense anymore she wI'll tell us she hates us and wants to live with her grand parents.she will hit us.we walks into friends houses and can destroy toys throws thing draws on walls.hit the children and we we say we go home we get this major tantrum or if we say there not in to go play she screams for about a hour.she can't be alone she wants to be next to us and thinks she can rule the house. She tells us she is a queen and we have to do what she says. The nursery have now got trips on a minibus everyday near enough and says her behaviour can be wild just like at home she is territorial and has no regard for personal boundaries climbing not listening etc. SO they want her on this trip every available space to get her out of the classroom. I find this is not helping in her final important year of nursery.with my parents she can behave but not anywhere else we are at a loss what to do its really draining us.there is alot more I could say.even now she's currently rolling at my feet naked as she refuses clothes half the time or when we say no she will even go as far as purposely wetting her self.and rubbing it in our face if we ignore she dances it about our face.I have adhd, odd,cd,autism in my family desperately in need of some answers as health aren't really helping us

Our Response:
If you feel she needs to be assessed for any of the syndromes you mention, then do ask your GP. You say your daughter can behave with your parents. This suggests that maybe there is something both you and your partner can do to help the situation. Keep a strict routine, make sure there are consequences for unacceptable behaviour and rewards for great behaviour. You do need to spend time playing with your daughter or involving her in what you're doing. The clinginess and disriptive behaviour sounds like it could be related to both boredom and not getting the right kind of attention.
KidsBehaviour - 2-Nov-16 @ 10:29 AM
My daughter is just turned 4 and since she was 2 she's been "naughty" and we passed it off as terrible 2s to start with but now we cant and its getting worse she never listens and tries to argue with me and my partner. If we say no she screams the house down. She tries to play me and my partner off in front of each other.we tell her off and she won't stand still. she's constantly on the move jumping about on furniture which we have told her over and over not to do. she's always climbing and told her she can't do this as she goes near windows very recently opened her window which I could get over luckily it's got safety features only her fingers would get out but that's to not the point,..there's so many things we have seen her do..she just won't listen and is constantly running about and clingy she hardly plays with toys she sits beside me all day long and follows me everywhere I can't stop her,she is a clever little girl and her behaviour just doesn't make sense anymore she wI'll tell us she hates us and wants to live with her grand parents.she will hit us.we walks into friends houses and can destroy toys throws thing draws on walls.hit the children and we we say we go home we get this major tantrum or if we say there not in to go play she screams for about a hour.she can't be alone she wants to be next to us and thinks she can rule the house. She tells us she is a queen and we have to do what she says. The nursery have now got trips on a minibus everyday near enough and says her behaviour can be wild just like at home she is territorial and has no regard for personal boundaries climbing not listening etc. SO they want her on this trip every available space to get her out of the classroom. I find this is not helping in her final important year of nursery.with my parents she can behave but not anywhere else we are at a loss what to do its really draining us...there is alot more I could say.even now she's currently rolling at my feet naked as she refuses clothes half the time or when we say no she will even go as far as purposely wetting her self..and rubbing it in our face if we ignore she dances it about our face..I have adhd, odd,cd,autism in my family desperately in need of some answers as health aren't really helping us
Sammy - 1-Nov-16 @ 6:39 AM
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