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Smacking and Children

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 1 Sep 2019 | comments*Discuss
 
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“Smacking” is a commonly accepted term for the (light) hitting of children in the name of discipline. Many parents smack their children with the belief that it will deter them from bad behaviour and that they themselves were smacked as children and are no worse for wear. Other parents view smacking as child abuse and refuse to engage in the practice. Today smacking remains a legal (in some cases) but highly controversial method of discipline.

Smacking and the Law in the United Kingdom
Prior to 1998, British parents were afforded the right to use “reasonable chastisement” to discipline their children but the subjective term “reasonable” was never well explained. In September of that year, the European Court of Human Rights decided that this law did not adequately protect children’s rights and so the Children’s Act of 2004 sought to clarify the laws surrounding smacking. Under Section 58 of the Act, smacking remains legal as long as it does not cause visible bruises, grazes, scratches, swelling or cuts. As of June 2007, these conditions provoked a Ministerial review of Section 58 of the Children’s Act with some Ministers again calling for an outright ban on smacking children. Scotland operates some smacking bans, and strict definitions of “reasonable” punishments. The Northern Ireland Commissioner for Children and Young People is seeking a full and outright ban on smacking children.

Smacking as Discipline
Parents who smack children usually do so by swatting a child on the bottom, causing many to argue that smacking a child wearing a nappy does not harm a child’s body. These parents believe that they are conditioning children to associate negative behaviours with negative consequences. This may be true, but opponents of smacking argue that this does not teach children anything – the key difference between simply punishing children and disciplining children in an instructive manner. These parents often recommend discipline techniques that require thought and reflection on inappropriate behaviour instead of smacking. Some of these techniques include:
  • Time Out – removing a child from a situation instigating inappropriate behaviour for a set number of minutes. Often an explanation and/or apology are required before a Time Out can end.

  • The Naughty Step – requiring a child to sit on a particular step (or rug, or mat, etc.) while they reflect on their inappropriate behaviour. Again, an explanation and/or apology are often required before the child is allowed off of the Naughty Step.

  • Grounding – prohibiting a child from attending particular social events or from engaging in particular activities. This technique may also incorporate particular tasks or chores which must be carried out instead and are designed to teach children appropriate behaviour.

  • Taking Away Privileges – prohibiting a child from taking advantage of certain privileges (usually those that they have earlier abused with inappropriate behaviour). Privileges are usually restored when a child can prove, through his/her behaviour, that (s)he understands and appreciates them.
Smacking, or the light hitting of a child, remains legal within certain guidelines throughout the United Kingdom. Political opponents of smacking are now calling for outright bans on the practice while parental opponents of smacking are waging informational campaigns to educate smacking parents about the alternatives. Though it remains legal, smacking is highly controversial in the UK and could become illegal in the near future.

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since i remember mom spanked us i actually believe in hitting i myself hit my own children but not so bad like mom who whipped the daylight out of us we behaved out of fear from being caught my buttocks were spanked daily by mom with no less than 1 hour or 3000 smacks (average of 50 slaps a minute) i remember at age 12 i misbehaved and lied to mom that it was my sister who got "my" punishment from my mom in the evening mom saw on the video cameras at home it was me she punished me forMISBEHAVING - CHEATING HER - GETTING MY SISTER PUNISHED - CHEATING MY SISTER - (and obviously) MAINLY FOR LYING the time then was 2:26 p.m. she slapped my face until 4:11 mom was counting each smack and reached 5288 slaps on cheeks then she pulled down my pants and pantees andwith a ..... she hit me i was jumping in pain mom cared no less at 9:53 dad came home and yelled at mom that there was no supper so mom stopped to prepare supper in those 5 hours and 42 minutes i was spanked 17,062 times thats not worst when i was also 12 A month later she hit me for licking my sister and denying it after looking on video cameras she yanked my pantees down and at 7:41 p.m she gave me first lashes it ended at 4:29 a.m. (that is 8 hours and 48 minutes) I received 31,783 lashes and next morning mom forced me to school i came on time .thats my mom she slapped me last when i was turning 16 years today as a parent of 5 i hit my children but not cruel maybe like 10-20 smacks max. only once a week or two
buttocks - 1-Sep-19 @ 3:23 PM
my mothers smacks r still felt today 12 years laterigot from mom on daily basis from age 5 till 16 no less then 1000 slaps on each face and 1200 on buttocks she is worst mom in existince
spanked and spanks o - 21-Aug-19 @ 3:07 AM
when i was little i was always terrified from my mother
it - 21-Aug-19 @ 2:25 AM
I hate hitting my children as it makes me feel like I have lost control and could have handled it better. However once they have had a smack they know thd utlimate price for behaving badly and you never or rarely have to dish them out again once threatened. My son is 9 and only ever had 1 or 2. My 6 year old daughter has never had 1 as a telling off worked just as well. I was smacked as a child but never wanted to use that as an excuse to raise my children that way. It was just a tool as to raise respectful, polite children to respect their elders they have to feel fear (old fashioned but rare I have experienced with my children's friends) there are too many kids that rule the roost these days and dont use basic manners that it's becoming the norm (so sad as doesn't cost anything,). Kids should have some fear for their actions to keep them on the right path and becoming friends with parents should come when they become the well rounded members of society we wanted them to be. My children fear my reaction because they respect me and don't want to disappoint. Healthy but they know what a smack feels like! My kids are polite, kind and know right from wrong.
Fjm - 14-Jul-19 @ 3:40 AM
guys stop putting silly comments my little son commited suicide
ggbg - 5-Mar-19 @ 2:17 PM
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dr love - 5-Mar-19 @ 2:13 PM
hey guys. help. my dad put me in the basement.
at - 5-Mar-19 @ 2:12 PM
i kill kids on a daily and fly planes into towers
planeflying69 - 4-Mar-19 @ 10:09 AM
“Smacking” is a commonly accepted term for the (light) hitting of children in the name of discipline. Many parents smack their children with the belief that it will deter them from bad behaviour and that they themselves were smacked as children and are no worse for wear. Other parents view smacking as child abuse and refuse to engage in the practice. Today smacking remains a legal (in some cases) but highly controversial method of discipline. Smacking and the Law in the United Kingdom Prior to 1998, British parents were afforded the right to use “reasonable chastisement” to discipline their children but the subjective term “reasonable” was never well explained. In September of that year, the European Court of Human Rights decided that this law did not adequately protect children’s rights and so the Children’s Act of 2004 sought to clarify the laws surrounding smacking. Under Section 58 of the Act, smacking remains legal as long as it does not cause visible bruises, grazes, scratches, swelling or cuts. As of June 2007, these conditions provoked a Ministerial review of Section 58 of the Children’s Act with some Ministers again calling for an outright ban on smacking children. Scotland operates some smacking bans, and strict definitions of “reasonable” punishments. The Northern Ireland Commissioner for Children and Young People is seeking a full and outright ban on smacking children. Smacking as Discipline Parents who smack children usually do so by swatting a child on the bottom, causing many to argue that smacking a child wearing a nappy does not harm a child’s body. These parents believe that they are conditioning children to associate negative behaviours with negative consequences. This may be true, but opponents of smacking argue that this does not teach children anything – the key difference between simply punishing children and disciplining children in an instructive manner. These parents often recommend discipline techniques that require thought and reflection on inappropriate behaviour instead of smacking. Some of these techniques include: Time Out – removing a child from a situation instigating inappropriate behaviour for a set number of minutes. Often an explanation and/or apology are required before a Time Out can end. The Naughty Step – requiring a child to sit on a particular step (or rug, or mat, etc.) while they reflect on their inappropriate behaviour. Again, an explanation and/or apology are often required before the child is allowed off of the Naughty Step. Grounding – prohibiting a child from attending particular social events or from engaging in particular activities. This technique may also incorporate particular tasks or chores which must be carried out instead and are designed to teach children appropriate behaviour. Taking Away Privileges – prohibiting a child from taking advantage of certain privileges (usually those that they have earlier abused with inappropriate behaviour). Privileges are usually restored when
Learning is not fun - 1-Mar-19 @ 2:56 PM
According to all known laws of aviation, there is no way that a bee should be able to fly. Its wings are too small to get its fat little body off the ground. ... Because bees don't care what humans think is impossible.”
kthen - 1-Mar-19 @ 10:52 AM
My kid is so frustrated at me what should i do
ooooooooo - 1-Mar-19 @ 10:50 AM
i smac k kids so hard that they get horny
monkey - 1-Mar-19 @ 10:48 AM
i kill kids on a daily fly planes into towers come find me im right here
planeflying69 - 1-Mar-19 @ 10:45 AM
We have just been accused of abusing our children by the school. We have 4 children, 3 boys and a girl, have always disciplined our children in the same way (a smack on the arm or hand if we are pushed over the edge. In fact the 2 older boys are spoken to as they are old enough to speak with, but our daughter knows how to push us over the edge with her erratic and disruptive behaviour). Our youngest is only 2 and at that age we never feel it is necessary to use a smack to warn them that repeated bad behaviour will result in a smack. No warning by the school, the 3 who attend were interviewed by staff and the following day my wife was taken in, interviewed by Redbridge Social services and the police. We feel completely criminalised and awful at being told we are being monitored and don't even know what the triggers have been. As overly loving parents, from that moment we now feel we have to disconnect, disengage and be tolerant of bad behaviour for fear of what is actually acceptable. Our trust and authority has been completely diminished. We have been reduced from loving parents to simply having children in our care and it is going to take so much to rebuild our family back.
Soods - 23-Nov-18 @ 4:23 AM
Small children cannot be reasoned with I would rather see a child receive a smack rather than loose that child when it repeatedly goes to the electric plug or tried to reach pots on the stove or run into the road a quick short slap will stop them in their tracks. I don't think children should be hammered or abused but small children cannot be reasoned with they cannot understand as older people do.
Me - 18-Nov-18 @ 2:25 AM
Gods got nothing to say on it has he? because he can’t talk so why even bother to say it. Make your own decisions in life and treat each other well.
HeIsIAndIAmHim - 2-Nov-18 @ 8:34 PM
I am now 53 years old and am suffering from mental health issues.My father physically beat me with leather belt when mother was away,my mother hit me in head with poker when father was at work,had to promise 'not to tell'. I was no angel but didnt see this treatment as reason to stop,i was v young n now i know better.All i know is violence is NEVER an answer,it only leaves victims
pumpkin - 4-Sep-18 @ 9:59 PM
I was hit by my parents and the pain that i suffered is still there. I lost my childhood in that home, I had to learn to be the perfect daughter, someone who never did anything wrong.
HelpMe. - 2-Feb-17 @ 5:28 PM
Hi my 4 year old daughter has been very bad the last cople of months just last week she tried jumping up on my balcony so i smacked her hand few days later i get a call from social services saying they had a call anonymously saying i screamed at her told her get in the effing house and smacked her i have never swore at my child what the person said i said was actually my neighbour shouting at her daughter my girl is in the process of being assessed for adhd
Re - 28-Aug-16 @ 7:21 PM
Jas - Your Question:
I'm a parent of 5 and all my children apart from one of my sons are well behaved. I can't understand for the life of me why!!!! I've treated them all the same and brought them up in the same way with the same methods, my son has a low patience tolerance he screams yells and also makes sure all the attention is on him if he doesn't get what he wants. On occasion he runs into the streets screaming don't hit me and I've never hit any of my children can anyone help me I don't know what to do.iv tried books videos etc to help me with solving this naughty issue but no rules or consequences work

Our Response:
How old is your son? Is he well behaved at school/nursery etc?
KidsBehaviour - 12-Jul-16 @ 10:23 AM
i am a parent to 3 kids and 2 ARE BAD BEHAVERD
lyynnssmtihhh - 11-Jul-16 @ 12:54 PM
I'm a parent of 5 and all my children apart from one of my sons are well behaved.... I can't understand for the life of me why!!!! I've treated them all the same and brought them up in the same way with the same methods, my son has a low patience tolerance he screams yells and also makes sure all the attention is on him if he doesn't get what he wants.... On occasion he runs into the streets screaming don't hit me and I've never hit any of my children can anyone help me I don't know what to do....iv tried books videos etc to help me with solving this naughty issue but no rules or consequences work
Jas - 9-Jul-16 @ 8:13 PM
I have never been hit my whole life but I watched as my dad hit my older sister, she was the only one in the family that got hit. She now has PTSD and gets very anxious when around our parents. That is what happens when parents hit their children and it should be banned but sadly it probably won't.
Billy - 2-Apr-16 @ 2:26 PM
my friend has been arrested due to her 13 year old daughter calling the police due to her desire to join her mates in a care home, they have made the care home sound great with freedom, money and no rules. Because she refused to sign a form to say she won't smack her daughter she is now charged with abuse, she has tried all the above ways but they haven't worked. What is left for her to do other than let her daughter enter the care system and get swallowed up by the scum waiting for her in there, and then pick up the pieces when she finds out that it's not all money and parties.
Two4One - 25-Mar-16 @ 8:37 AM
No no no why would anyone want to cause a little one pain ? I do not believe any person has any right to smack children. I did never ever smack my children. My mum never evef smacked me. So nope, i dont agree
Carol - 19-Mar-16 @ 4:13 PM
I dont personally smack my children but i was smacked as a child and i turned out okay sometimes as a last resort i dont see the problem of a child getting a smacked bottom or hand to teach them right from wrong i my self as a child was smacked with a belt on numerous occassions by my father and yes it hurt at the time but it taught me never to do what i done again and no i dont agree with belts and other things but dont disagree with a smack on the bottom or hand to teach some kids right from wrong
shazza - 19-Mar-16 @ 1:37 AM
I am a 16 year old that has been 'punished' way too much when I was little. It was always on my bottom or legs, but it was never ever soft. I now have complex PTSD,and hitting your child is likely to result in this or another form of paranoia or anxiety. Hitting your children is more likely to make them rebellious when they get older. There are many other obvious methods of disciplining children as it clearly states in this article.
Anonymous - 8-Jan-16 @ 7:34 AM
It's a tough call but often the only one when all of the alternatives repeatedly fail. There is a world of difference between a child who is unloved, abused and physically hurt and a child who knows they are treasured and loved but will get a wee smack if they take it way too far. The legislative concerns relate to the worry that a liberal stance on smacking leads to too much grey area that may allow abuse cases to slip through.
Bobboid - 18-Jun-15 @ 10:16 PM
I can not understand why other people put their noses into a families discilpine, I and my wife use smacking, as a very last resort, we have children now as teenagers drinking, smoking on drugs getting pregnant at a very early age! Why? A serious lack of discilpine in the home from an early age! I talk to fellow parents who are at a loss of what to do with their children, the try grounding, the children walk out the door! They try restrictions, they go to their friends houses were they dont have any, they give them choures the children refuse! This is the time were a reasonable smack may come in but you can not do this as everybody and their neighbour put their noses in andeven the children are threatening to ring social services! So, let me ask all those people who are totally against reasonable smaking, when all else fails what do you do? Do you realise that your trying to take away a parents power to govern their children? What next will be child abuse, teaching morals, God, etc?
sammey - 13-Feb-15 @ 9:51 PM
hi my sister smacking the kids heaps of time beacuse they are not listen iam sick of itwhat i do next if she do it again
bambam - 17-Jul-12 @ 10:54 AM
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