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Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)

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All kids go through difficult stages and could sometimes be described as "oppositional." There is an enormous difference between the normal defiance seen in two year olds (they don't call it the 'terrible twos' for nothing!) and the early teen years though and the chronic condition referred to as Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD).

What is Oppositional Defiant Disorder?
Unlike behavioural issues in older kids and teens, ODD is typically seen in children younger than nine or ten years. A diagnosis of ODD requires that the child is defiant and disobedient, with a provocative quality to their behaviour. Tendencies toward cruelty or angry, violent aggression are not symptomatic of Oppositional Defiant Disorder and should be reported to the GP so that a correct diagnosis can be made and an appropriate treatment plan can be implemented.

Be aware that sometimes ODD can be confused with CD, or Conduct Disorder, which is actually a more severe version of ODD. The definition of CD is a serious childhood psychiatric disorder in which either major society rules, or the rights of others, are violated by the child at least three times in the last year, including at least once in the last six months. This includes physically abusing people or animals, arson, stealing and other digressions.

Symptoms of ODD
While parents shouldn't rush to the conclusion that their stubborn, sometimes defiant child has ODD, there are symptoms that may warrant a professional evaluation. Children with ODD are likely to act out in a number of situations, with school and home being the two places where behaviours are deemed most disruptive. Occasional emotional outbursts are considered a normal part of childhood, but if parents notice an ongoing pattern of the following behaviours, especially if the child's actions cause them difficulty in everyday functioning, a thorough evaluation is recommended:
  • Frequent and/or extreme temper tantrums
  • Tendency to be easily annoyed by others
  • Blatant refusal to comply with household or school rules
  • Takes argumentative stance with adults
  • Rude, uncooperative and confrontational attitude
  • Use of mean-spirited language when upset
  • Deliberate attempts to upset and annoy others
  • Frequent bursts of anger or resentful attitude
  • Tendency to place blame on others
  • Outward and belligerent defiance
  • Revengeful attitude
A professional evaluation can be of great assistance since it can be very difficult for parents to ascertain the root causes of their children's troubling behaviours. Additionally, children with other conditions, such as Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), anxiety issues, mood disorders (including depression or bipolar disorder), or learning disabilities may exhibit similar symptoms, making diagnosis by an untrained parent especially difficult.

Causes of Oppositional Defiant Disorder
There is much speculation about the causes of ODD, with no definitive answers at this time. Many parents of kids with Oppositional Defiant Disorder do report that those children were rigid and demanding from an early age, compared to their siblings, raising the possibility that there may be biological or environmental factors involved. Some studies seem to indicate a tendency for ODD to run in families, strengthening the argument for a biological connection. Some experts believe that the condition is more common in children whose parents are hostile a lot of the time, or who tend to argue a lot.

It is estimated that at least five per cent of the population suffer from ODD, but the way it manifests itself can range greatly. Some children with the disorder tend to argue and talk back a lot, while others are overly hostile virtually all of the time. What holds true for most of the children, however, is that authority figures bear the brunt of the hostility - be they parents, teachers or others. As a result, they find school a difficult time, despite their intelligence, and often have a hard time making and keeping friends.

Experts believe that ODD is more common in a child who has been already been diagnosed with ADHD, although an exact link has not been established. In fact, as many as half the number of children with ADHD may also have ODD. Others believe that some sleep disorders may be mistaken for ODD. While the exact causes are still a bit of a mystery, treatment options are well-established.

Treatment Options
A number of treatment options have proved effective for the management of ODD. It is vital that parents are actively involved in their child's struggle to control inappropriate and troubling behaviour, so attending a parent training program can be quite helpful. Additionally, family psychotherapy may be beneficial in helping improve communication as the child attends individual therapy sessions to learn anger management techniques. Cognitive behavioural therapy and social skills training classes may be needed to help kids with ODD increase their problem solving skills while learning to interact more positively with peers and authority figures.

All of this can be difficult on parents, who often feel helpless and discouraged. Actively taking measures to help their children cope and function can be empowering for parents, making life easier for the whole family:

  • Offer children praise and encouragement when they are cooperative.
  • Refrain from arguing with children and make it clear that they will not engage in confrontational displays.
  • Establish reasonable and age-appropriate behavioural expectations and be consistent in following up with consequences for disobedience.
  • Learn and utilise stress management techniques. This will not only help them to cope with the pressures of raising a child with ODD, but will also provide good examples for their children.

Some parents of children with ODD offer other advice as well, which will not "cure" the condition but will help alleviate some of the symptoms. Limit the amount of television and computer time your child has, find out what interests they have and encourage them to develop them as much as possible, and enlist the help of others when you can.

Doing the Best for Your Child

Most parents of children with ODD know from a very early age that their child is different from others - in some cases, different from their other siblings. But having a child with Oppositional Defiant Disorder need not be too disheartening, as there is help around. Several support groups now exist for parents of children with this disorder, as well as parents of kids with ADHD. Some parents find it easier for their children to find other children with ODD to play with; they seem to be on the same "wavelength" and get along well, with less squabbling and bickering.

What is vital is that parents get the support and encouragement they need, so that they can continue supporting and encouraging their own children. Once you can get the right diagnosis for your child you can take the right steps to learn more about ODD, and help your child live life to the full.

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Hi I have a 12 year old boy who I feel like I am walking on egg shells with he can be fine one minute but the simplest of request can set him off he is so argumentative with me his dad his teachers and karate coach brothers and sisters we have tried every punishment and he can be good to earn the thing back that have been took as punishment but then misbehave again he had a behaviour time table at school and was good all week then the next week when he has not got one he is back to misbehaving dose this sound like odd thanks
Maz - 29-May-18 @ 11:12 PM
Kim - Your Question:
I have an 8 yr old granddaughter. She has all these symptoms. She has severe temper tantrums at least 5 days a week. She screams how much she hates us and how she wants to die. Her mother (my step-daughter) died 3 years ago. However our grand has lived with us all but 4 months of her life. 1st her and Mom lived with us and at 3 her Mom said she didn't want her anymore cause her mother couldn't handle being a mother. They never bonded. She is great for everyone else. Perfect straight A student in school. This only happens with us. She can't keep a friend because she flips out on them when they are at our house if they wont do what she wants. She has been in counseling for a year now and nothing has changed at all. If anything the fits have escalated. Tonight she fought with a friend and she started punching herself in the face, scratching herself and banging her head off the wall. We are in some serious need of help!!!

Our Response:
Have you tried to talking to the counsellor about the progress? Are there other therapies she/he can recommend that you try? The situation with her mother has perhaps affected her more than you think, being effectively abandoned and then the parent dying...Here are a few organisations that might be able to help or refer you elsewhere for help:
Action For Children
Family Lives
Think Children
KidsBehaviour - 4-Apr-18 @ 10:01 AM
SarahJ - Your Question:
My daughter is 11 years old, I also have two other children who are 12 and 4. By the time my 11 year old was 2 years old I knew something was very different about her, so I started to seek help and advice. At this point she loved to hurt our cats and dogs, as she would put it, she wanted to see their blood.My 11 year old is very violent and aggressive towards her family members. She put her brother in hospital 3 years ago, by punching his weak left lung (knowing he had asthma. She used her butter knife from her meal and threatened to stab my belly when I was pregnant with her little sister. She's tried to push all of us including her little sister down the stairs. She hates been asked to do something, even if it's me (her mother) just asking her to get changed after school. She will swear regularly and say very mean and nasty things to all of us. She's tried to harm herself several times by trying to swallow pen lids, throw herself down the stairs, smash her head repeatedly against the floor or walls. She's tried to through herself in front of cars as she didn't want to go to school. She always acts like she is the victim and that she's done nothing wrong. About 6 months ago she had a massive episode and said that she heard a voice in her head telling her to wait till her whole family was asleep and stab us all. In my point of view she ticks every box for ODD but as she's only like this at home and not at school no one will do anything. I've had an array of officials involved with my family (all involved only because I've asked and begged for help) None of them want to help us or diagnosis my daughter with anything. I took her to hospital on the night she heard a voice telling her to harm all her family members. This then got use another social worker, who in the past 8 months hasn't done anything. All he does is have a meeting with me and the school staff members at school once every 6 weeks. He answer is that she's just a normal child and hearing a voice to harm her family members once is perfectly normal. He's about to close the case as he says he has not concerns with my patenting etc. But. This concerns me as this is tearing our family apart. We can't take the kids out anywhere because if my 11 year old doesn't get everything she wants she we have a massive tantrum, in the past she didn't get a toy from a gift shop museum so she refused to stay strapped in the car and attacked my partner while he was driving.

Our Response:
Ask your GP about this, it may not by ODD but an another mental health issue.
KidsBehaviour - 3-Apr-18 @ 12:36 PM
I have an 8 yr old granddaughter. She has all these symptoms. She has severe temper tantrums at least 5 days a week. She screams how much she hates us and how she wants to die. Her mother (my step-daughter) died 3 years ago. However our grand has lived with us all but 4 months of her life. 1st her and Mom lived with us and at 3 her Mom said she didn't want her anymore cause her mother couldn't handle being a mother. They never bonded. She is great for everyone else. Perfect straight A student in school. This only happens with us. She can't keep a friend because she flips out on them when they are at our house if they wont do what she wants. She has been in counseling for a year now and nothing has changed at all. If anything the fits have escalated. Tonight she fought with a friend and she started punching herself in the face, scratching herself and banging her head off the wall. We are in some serious need of help!!!
Kim - 1-Apr-18 @ 4:40 AM
My daughter is 11 years old, I also have two other children who are 12 and 4. By the time my 11 year old was 2 years old I knew something was very different about her, so I started to seek help and advice. At this point she loved to hurt our cats and dogs, as she would put it, she wanted to see their blood. My 11 year old is very violent and aggressive towards her family members. She put her brother in hospital 3 years ago, by punching his weak left lung (knowing he had asthma. She used her butter knife from her meal and threatened to stab my belly when I was pregnant with her little sister. She's tried to push all of us including her little sister down the stairs. She hates been asked to do something, even if it's me (her mother) just asking her to get changed after school. She will swear regularly and say very mean and nasty things to all of us. She's tried to harm herself several times by trying to swallow pen lids, throw herself down the stairs, smash her head repeatedly against the floor or walls. She's tried to through herself in front of cars as she didn't want to go to school. She always acts like she is the victim and that she's done nothing wrong. About 6 months ago she had a massive episode and said that she heard a voice in her head telling her to wait till her whole family was asleep and stab us all. In my point of view she ticks every box for ODD but as she's only like this at home and not at school no one will do anything. I've had an array of officials involved with my family (all involved only because I've asked and begged for help) None of them want to help us or diagnosis my daughter with anything. I took her to hospital on the night she heard a voice telling her to harm all her family members. This then got use another social worker, who in the past 8 months hasn't done anything. All he does is have a meeting with me and the school staff members at school once every 6 weeks. He answer is that she's just a normal child and hearing a voice to harm her family members once is perfectly normal. He's about to close the case as he says he has not concerns with my patenting etc. But... This concerns me as this is tearing our family apart. We can't take the kids out anywhere because if my 11 year old doesn't get everything she wants she we have a massive tantrum, in the past she didn't get a toy from a gift shop museum so she refused to stay strapped in the car and attacked my partner while he was driving.
SarahJ - 30-Mar-18 @ 1:55 PM
My son is 10. We often joke that he's been defiant since he was born. Certainly from a very young age. The only person who my son isn't argumentative towards is his father. His older sisters and I often need to call dad to calm him down.everything i ask him to do is an argument: brush your teeth, have a shower, go to bed, put on your clothes, brush your hair. It's exhausting. He's defiant towards everyone, including his teachers. He hates his current teacher who, at this stage, has written him off by the looks of things. He's been on report since October and up until now the senco has still not seen him. He has always hated school, but now he has tantrums several mornings a week. These can last for up to 30 mins. My dad, (who drops him off), is getting old and is more and more dismayed by the behaviour.We both walk on eggshells just to get him through the morning without a meltdown. I'm a teacher, and sometimes I get to drop him to school. He cries every time now. Begs me to take him home, or let him have a tutor. He says he hates his life and he wants to kill himself and I need to lie with him to get him to sleep on many nights. The other thing I'm concerned about is that he doesn't seem to have any real friends. He hardly ever gets invited to parties, and his relationships always seem to end. The only positive is that the pastoral lady at his school seems to be making headway with him, and he adores doing sports. He swims 3 times a week, does football twice and boxing. We try to divert him, but it's not enough.
Chan - 23-Mar-18 @ 7:29 PM
Been looking for some support and found this. My son is ten and is seen by cahms but they have diagnosed a complex neurological condition which actually does not mean a great deal or offer any support to my management of my child. He was born at 31 weeks and is reasonably normal in relation to development other than behaviour. He behaves at school so clearly can manage it. At home he starts arguments every day, bullies his sister and completely over reacts to any discipline I give out, he threatens to kill himself and screams and shouts,lies and denies involvement in any incident when he has created the incident. I completely lose it a lot of the time as it goes on and on, I work full time on top of this daily nervous breakdown and feel like I'm slowly losing the will with all of this, I think he's jealous of his sisters as when he spends time alone with me he's a different child. Cahms have offered very little as no proper diagnosis, offered some parenting support people to come and sit in.my house to watch how the dynamics work!! Did point out that he would manage his behaviours with a stranger about and I have three other children who do not behave like this at all so due to them reverting to a management of behaviour..I. .parenting issue I give up with them. The original doc said they would do genetic testing but then it never happened...can I get an mri scan to check brain development on nhs? ??
Jane - 14-Mar-18 @ 6:44 AM
Hi, I’m 14 years old and actually people tell me that I have all the symptoms of ODD. I always have temper tantrums one after another. I always deliberately annoy my brothers and sisters and I more or likely blame people for my mistakes. And my auntie said that I never like being told “NO” could this possibly show that I have a side of ODD?
Kim - 7-Mar-18 @ 7:05 PM
My 10-year -old son goes beserk if I ask him to do simple things , he hits and bites himself , goes in his upstairs window and ties things around his neck if punished . He swears , he has destroyed my house and his bedroom is always trashed when asked to do something. In school he is timid . He tells me it's because I shout . I shout because I lose my rag with his disgusting behavior. I am going to the doctors surgery with him asap .
Laura - 22-Jan-18 @ 8:53 PM
My son is 7 and has shown the signs of ODD in this article for about 3 years now but never in school.At home and especially in my partners house he regularly has tantrums over doing simple things like sitting at the table to eat.He often winds my partners children up and then ends up being the one that gets told off when they react to his behaviour. I don’t know if he has ODD though as in school he is well behaved and has never shown any of these signs. Please help!
Daisy - 14-Jan-18 @ 8:59 AM
Hi, I have an 11 year old boy since the age of 3 he's shown signs of aggreessive angry unruley behaviour for years I have tried to get help going to meetings at school to being sent to camhs he's even seen and art theropist yet all I keep getting told his it's emotional issues! He lashes out and on a number of occasions has punched me in the face he's once trashed my bedroom in his anger! He's evil to his neice and nephews whenever he goes out playing he's constantly fighting with other boys when I ask him to do something he'll scream so aggressively at me that it's like a full grown man wanting to fight! His attitude towards me and other is beyond disgusting and I'm ashamed when he's like this as my mum brought me up with mannners and Iv tried my hardest to reflect that into him he constantly calls me names! Iv tried every punishement that I can and been told to do by family workers and school. He refuses to get in the shower he won't brush his teeth and he's constantly late for school because he dordles and when I'm keep asking him to get dressed he screams and shouts at me swearing he's cheeky when asked something and for example if he loses a toy he will go crazy and then the aggressions starts this never stops and it's constant from getting up in a morning to going to bed I'm a single mum as his dad left him when he was younger and as had no contact since then! It's causing issues in my current relationship and my parents. I suffer with anxiety and was told that all the stress from this will be my main cause I can't sleep on a night because I'm dreading the next day I go to work and can't concentrate as he's getting older the worse he has got Iv fought and fought with dr etc just for help and each time the out comes emotional issues but then no further help at all Iv even gone to my local MP for help and still nothing. I'm just so lost as to what to do next.
Sherrie88 - 18-Oct-17 @ 7:45 PM
Sue - Your Question:
My daughter is 9 years old and has been given a diagnosis of ODD possible CD and subline Adhd. However when in School she does her best too stay calm, most of her outbursts are at home.However, she does refuse to go School sometimes her School is aware of her condition but are now threatening me with court action. I am a Teacher the School does not care that court could cause problems with my future. More importantly they seem to be not taking her diagnosis into account what can I do. I am at a loss and my health has dteriated. The School is more interested in ticking boxes and having perfect attendance records than what's going on. I can't cope what can be done.

Our Response:
Can you talk to someone at your education welfare service? They might be able to make suggestions for getting her to school. Assuming you're working, we're guessing you have to miss school too when you daughter refuses to go, which must be affecting your own job and pupils.
KidsBehaviour - 18-Oct-17 @ 3:01 PM
Mimmie - Your Question:
I have a just turned 9yr old daughter youngest of 3 children. From very young ( under a yr old) she hated being kissed and would shrug physical touch off. As she got older she woukd hide when famiky arrived and left to avoid the hug and kisses part, she would sit on my lap but I wasnt aloud to put my hand on a knee or around her, unless she pulled my hand around herself! From age 3 or before she was defient stubborn and did the opposite to everything asked, if she knew she was winding someone up she would do it more. I have been the best I can dealing with her. 2 yrs ago she developed tic disorder, and im starting to see abusive behaviour in her. She physically and verbally hurts kids at school, we went to a party and she started on a girl. I had to get on the bouncy castle and calm her down and she was shouting you dont know what its like to be me! Im a bully and I cant help it. I talk to her alot ( bit believer in communication) she can be in tears about it because she really struggles to let things go. At school she talks back to teachers and doesnt do as shes told and she has to be prized off of me every morning going in. At home she can be so mean to me I go and cry. It also affects her siblings. She struggles with empathy and acts like she doesnt care about anything. But under it she has a huge heart and I know she cares so much. Now she is older she will hug me alot and tells me she loves me. But still not anyone else in our family, my mum always says can I have a hug, I wont kiss you and sometimes she will. I dont know what she has but being 9 and it escalating socially at school I need to find out. Ive been to drs lots of times but they never refer her. What do I do and any idea what is wrong with her. Thanks

Our Response:
Why will the doctors not refer her? She clearly has some problems that are distressing her? Has she ever been diagnosed with autism etc? Try contacting the Family Lives Helpline or find out whether you have a local parent partnership service to see whether they can offer any alternative support routes.
KidsBehaviour - 17-Oct-17 @ 10:04 AM
Sorry I forgot to say that she doesn't always have a problem and can be helpful. The thing is she brings it all home and I get double the grief. She hits me, calls me names it's really awful. I am I tears all the time. I don't have any help.
Sue - 17-Oct-17 @ 4:57 AM
My daughter is 9 years old and has been given a diagnosis of ODD possible CD and subline Adhd. However when in School she does her best too stay calm, most of her outbursts are at home. However, she does refuse to go School sometimes her School is aware of her condition but are now threatening me with court action. I am a Teacher the School does not care that court could cause problems with my future. More importantly they seem to be not taking her diagnosis into account what can i do. I am at a loss and my health has dteriated. The School is more interested in ticking boxes and having perfect attendance records than what's going on. I can't cope what can be done.
Sue - 17-Oct-17 @ 4:48 AM
I have a just turned 9yr old daughter youngest of 3 children. From very young ( under a yr old) she hated being kissed and would shrug physical touch off. As she got older she woukd hide when famiky arrived and left to avoid the hug and kisses part, she would sit on my lap but i wasnt aloud to put my hand on a knee or around her, unless she pulled my hand around herself! From age 3 or before she was defient stubborn and did the opposite to everything asked, if she knew she was winding someone up she would do it more. I have been the best i can dealing with her. 2 yrs ago she developed tic disorder, and im starting to see abusive behaviour in her. She physically and verbally hurts kids at school, we went to a party and she started on a girl. I had to get on the bouncy castle and calm her down and she was shouting you dont know what its like to be me! Im a bully and i cant help it. I talk to her alot ( bit believer in communication) she can be in tears about it because she really struggles to let things go. At school she talks back to teachers and doesnt do as shes told and she has to be prized off of me every morning going in. At home she can be so mean to me i go and cry. It also affects her siblings. She struggles with empathy and acts like she doesnt care about anything. But under it she has a huge heart andi know she cares so much. Now she is older she will hug me alot and tells me she loves me. But still not anyone else in our family, my mum always says can i have a hug, i wont kiss you and sometimes she will. I dont know what she has but being 9 and it escalating socially at school i need to find out. Ive been to drs lots of times but they never refer her. What do i do and any idea what is wrong with her. Thanks
Mimmie - 16-Oct-17 @ 12:40 AM
Looking for advise, I am at my wits end and I really don't know what to do anymore. I have a 9 year old daughter who is badly behaved, I believe she has ODD however I have been told time and again it's just a behavioural issue. She has me in tears to the point where I just wish I could run away forever. Her constant angry outbursts, yelling at me attacking things when it doesn't go her way. I try to punish het by grounding her but I then have to let her out as I can't get a minute for her constantly giving me grief and screaming at me. This is causing me severe depression and I really don't know what to do
Steph - 1-Oct-17 @ 2:16 AM
Hi I'm having terrible issues with my 5year oldboy.he is a fussy eaterrefusing to eat or try anything new esp fruit or veges.he is playing up at school disruptingclass not listening to teacher,fighting,not wanting to join in,anger issues,showing off,acting silly to get attention trying to be centre I attention,always wanting attention..i don't no wat to do it is becoming embarrassing because he is being delt with by deputy principal,etc classed as a naughty boy please help as I am due to have a new baby in two weeks and feel he is only gonna get worse.
needhelp - 5-Sep-17 @ 11:39 AM
sorry forgot to say he is a very angry child sometimes and aques with adults and just hits out at other children
bez - 30-Aug-17 @ 2:03 AM
9 year old grandson is evil to wareds animals he throw the kitten down stairs has thretened to stab a chilld on are streeet told other kids he is going kill there perants pored after shave over beds mixed bubblebath with other things set a fire in my bathroom i took him to gp and was told he is just a naughty 9 year old were can i get help
bez - 30-Aug-17 @ 1:59 AM
My daughter is 10 and a half.Her anger is becoming worse and her weight is piling on.As parents we have chatted to her and advised our concerns of how much she is eating at the moment (some of which she secretly eats) and how her moods seemed to be linked to eating.My motherinlaw lives in an adjoining granny flat and therefore she sneeks in there too to ensure she has food.Aware that she is now a big girl for her age..nearly as tall as me and a larger girl then me she is becoming unmanageable when asking her to shower and her personal hygiene is suffering also.Every day when asked to go for a shower it turns into a rage, things are thrown down, doors are slammed and her grandmother is becoming wary of her grand daughter.Any suggestions for a way forward .
Wanda - 29-Aug-17 @ 1:08 PM
My 9 yr old granddaughter is in need of help desperately.She is hurting herself by throwing herself against walls, scratchingand punches herself.She is not using the bathroom she instead uses her room for releaving herself,she won't shower brush her teeth or hair. Lately she has been stealing and lying. She has been caught punching my two dogs and her brother. Now she gets up in the middle of the night wanders around the house getting into sll kinds of stuff.she wss such a sweet little girl I'm so worried about her. I know my son's girlfriend has tried to get her help but we don't know where to go, hospitals won't help ,doctor won't help how do we get help?
Reba - 25-Aug-17 @ 11:03 AM
Martin - Your Question:
Our son is nearly 7 he is a twin. He is fantastic at school very clever but he has a quick temper at home he punches kicks and bites his brother and older sister he breaks and smashes things he screams when he thinks his brother will hurt him. He swears and tantrums sometimes for a hours. What can we do? He head banged as a baby.

Our Response:
Ask your GP for a help; if there's a problem that can be treated, they will be able to recognise it and recommend help.
KidsBehaviour - 2-Aug-17 @ 9:33 AM
Our son is nearly 7 he is a twin. He is fantastic at school very clever but he has a quick temper at home he punches kicks and bites his brother and older sister he breaks and smashes things he screams when he thinks his brother will hurt him. He swears and tantrums sometimes for a hours.What can we do? He head banged as a baby.
Martin - 29-Jul-17 @ 2:27 PM
I am at my wit's end with my 10 yr old it seems he enjoys upsetting us at home with no respect at all yet at school he's perfect it's like g he has to be in control of everyone in the house and if he doesn't get his way then we all have to suffer slamming doors shouting n screaming blaming everyone else for his behaviour he lays on the couch in the mornings won't move even when I remind him of the.time then blames me that he's going to be late for school even if I ignore the tantrums the slamming doors and throwing stuff he doesn't calm down hejust continues until he gets a reaction he never used to be like this which I'm sure there's something wrong with him
Michelle - 13-Jul-17 @ 10:23 AM
My sister is aged 10, she really struggles to cooperate with anything you say any time she is asked to do something either at home or at school, she will become very confrontational and will scream and tantrum. She will blatantly refuse to do anything asked, she will go out of her way to upset others. She has been like this since a young age but it is now getting worse, to the point my mum can't leave the house. She is just so argumentative and is turning into such a horrible child I'm struggling to have a nice relationship with her because it's every 10 minutes, I believe she needs help as it isn't normal tantrums anf playing up.
Keira - 26-Jun-17 @ 9:38 AM
Hi I've got a 7 yr old who is completely out off control at home or when ever we go any where. Good in school very quite doesn't join in. He lashes out at my self his sibling punching kicking screaming throws things at us. He is quite fighting at times. I'm struggling for any one to tell me why this is. Been told he just naughty an need to change my parenting he has learning difficulties an anxiety. I'm struggling to under stand what's happening in his head.
Linzi4 - 8-Jun-17 @ 11:14 PM
I have reluctantly self diagnosed myself with this, at the age of 47, after a childhood filled with prescribed meds from Phenergan at 3 months, to Tryptizol, Largactil and L-Dopa all before I was 5 years old. Another era in childhood medicine, I know, but after suffering with depression throughout my adulthood, I have been researching whether or not those meds could have disrupted something as I was growing up. I then discovered O.D.D and it sums up how I felt as a child, constantly angry, feeling repressed, lonely, belligerent and downright nasty. I wanted the world to hurt with me. I would throw things at the neighbours, bit a child psychologist, lashed out at my brother,causing scarring, hurt myself on occasion just to prove a point and delighted in running away to hurt those who loved me the most. This despite a loving and stable home and a relaxed, laid back, wonderful younger brother. Being able to put a name to what I felt as a child, other than plain old hyperactivity, is a huge relief. I grew up to be a mostly well adjusted, reasonably happy, responsible adult, with a 'normal' adulthood, (although I remain extremely opinionated and argumentative, just in more constructive and definitely less physical ways)so I hope this gives some hope to those with youngsters who have this condition now.
Georgi3 - 21-May-17 @ 9:11 PM
sarahlou - Your Question:
My daughter is 2 year old and wont eat (she would live off yoghurts if allowed as this is the only thing that she will eat). she has major meltdowns to the point where she will bang her head off any surface possible, pull her hair, punch herself or bite herself, no matter how much we try she will not settle on a night usually resulting in not going to sleep while 3-4am.

Our Response:
It might help for you to speak to your health visitor or GP for advice. Sometimes just refusing to offer an alternative and waiting for your child to be hungry enough that they will eat anything can work, but professional advice should really be sought.
KidsBehaviour - 17-May-17 @ 12:37 PM
my daughter is 2 year old and wont eat (she would live off yoghurts if allowed as this is the only thing that she will eat). she has major meltdowns to the point where she will bang her head off any surface possible, pull her hair, punch herself or bite herself, no matter how much we try she will not settle on a night usually resulting in not going to sleep while 3-4am.
sarahlou - 16-May-17 @ 1:44 PM
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