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Grounding Children

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 7 Jun 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
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Grounding is a discipline technique which many parents use with their school-aged children. Though it has been used widely for decades many parents are still unfamiliar with the details of Grounding. Though Groundings can be modified by parents as needed, some basic information can be given. Below are answers to frequently asked questions regarding Grounding children.

What is Grounding?
Grounding is a technique that parents use to discipline children. Parents Ground children by forbidding them to leave the home for social events for a specified period of time. Some parents also forbid children from engaging in entertaining past-times during this period as well. Other parents prefer to Ground children only from certain activities, for example from watching television, attending a particular birthday party or taking part in a particular group event.

How Long does a Grounding Last?
A Grounding can last as long as a parent likes, however the longer the Grounding lasts the less effective it usually becomes. Children very often become bored during Groundings, and many end up breaking further rules in an attempt to entertain themselves. Long Groundings also impact parents negatively in that many parents prefer not to have a moping child at home at all times. To avoid these outcomes, parents should keep Groundings short and sweet.

What Do Children Do During a Grounding?
When children are confined to the home and are not allowed to socialise they have a lot of free time. To avoid children getting up to no good during a Grounding, parents should consider assigning them certain projects to get through. Cleaning up a room, completing extra revision or babysitting younger siblings are all tasks that can be assigned to a child during a Grounding. Depending on why a child has been Grounded, parents can devise tasks that will teach them a lesson or a sense of responsibility related to these events.

Should Parents Remain at Home during Groundings?
Many parents prefer not to Ground children because they feel that their own lives are impacted by this type of discipline as well. Parents do not necessarily have to remain at home during a child’s Grounding, if they would leave their older children or teenagers at home alone were they not Grounded, though obviously this will depend on how much a parent trusts a child not to misbehave while they are out.

Do Groundings Work with All Children?
Groundings do not work with all children. Children who are not naturally outgoing or who do not particularly enjoy socialising will not necessarily find any further discipline in staying home simply because their parents are now requiring it. Children under about ten years of age often do not gain anything from Groundings.

How Frequently Can Parents Ground Children?
Parents should avoid Grounding children too frequently. If children feel as though they are Grounded for anything and everything, they will be less hesitant to break rules (because they will feel that they would probably be Grounded for something soon anyway!). Instead, parents should reserve Groundings for major misbehaviour.

Grounding children is a method of discipline that many parents embrace. In order to teach children something during their Grounding, parents should be prepared to have tasks for their children to complete which related to the behaviours that led to the Grounding in the first place.

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I mean I do get grounded all the time but because of how much trouble me and my three sisters get into sometimes we deserve to be punished but we do not under stand why are parents always use grounding for are punishment like when we get grounded we have to stay in are rooms unless bathroom or school and chores and I am a very very very snobby and moody teenager one time I was being rude to my grandma and my mom grounded me for 2 months and one time I forgot to take out the garage and the dog and my mom grounded me for 2 months also and one time me and my three sisters were told to clean the house and are rooms while are mom was at work and we didn't do anything and are mom grounded us for 5 months I get in so much trouble and that's why I get grounded so much
Nate - 7-Jun-18 @ 12:25 AM
Nate - Your Question:
You will not believe this I just got grounded tonight I felt so stupid my mom was taking a picture and I put bunny fingers up behind one of my sisters head and I got grounded for 5 months that's not fair and one time I got grounded at a park because I spent all of my money on one thing and so my mom grounded me for 4 months in public and I remember one time I forgot to let the dog out and my mom grounded me for 2 months and problay spent most of my teenagers years grounded in my room

Our Response:
That really is too much "grounding" in our opinion. Talk to one of your school teachers or another trusted adult about this.
KidsBehaviour - 4-Jun-18 @ 10:23 AM
you will not believe this I just got grounded tonight I felt so stupid my mom was taking a picture and I put bunny fingers up behind one of my sisters head and I got grounded for 5 months that's not fair and one time I got grounded at a park because I spent all of my money on one thing and so my mom grounded me for 4 months in public and I remember one time I forgot to let the dog out and my mom grounded me for 2 months and problay spent most of my teenagers years grounded in my room
Nate - 3-Jun-18 @ 5:26 AM
Ya I don't think it's fair to ground your kids and guess what every time I do something bad or act up my parents always keep me grounded as my punishment and I the worst part is I'm going to kennywood this Friday but I can't now because I just got grounded today for 3 months because I broke something very expensive and now I can't go to kennywood I hate being grounded all the time
Nate - 26-May-18 @ 6:34 PM
im grounded for 1whole month for wearing mskeup is this fair
lolo - 23-May-18 @ 9:50 PM
Ya I know you mean I'm grounded for a month right now and I can't go with my friends to a park today and I think your parents should let you go it's not fair you've been planning it for a couple weeks now you said and if you didn't now I get grounded all the time
Nate - 14-May-18 @ 8:16 PM
Owen - Your Question:
I am grounded for two weeks it has been one week and all of my friends had arranged a meet up for weeks and I’m not aloud to go is this fair?

Our Response:
It would probably be considered fair for parents to ground you if you did something that you knew was wrong and you knew that grounding was a potential consequence.
KidsBehaviour - 14-May-18 @ 10:38 AM
I am grounded for two weeks it has been one week and all of my friends had arranged a meet up for weeks and I’m not aloud to go is this fair?
Owen - 13-May-18 @ 11:29 AM
And when I get grounded if I ask when will my punishment be over they'll ground me longer I usually get grounded by my mom and even sometimes by my grandma and even my friends parents and I get grounded a lot because I'm always acting bad and I'm snobby and I don't listen and when someone tells me to do something I usually ignore their directions I'm also very moody and I once got got grounded with five of my friends because we were having a sleepover and we sneak out and when we came back they grounded us all for 4 months I get grounded all the time
Nate - 12-May-18 @ 1:13 AM
I don't mean to be rude or upset you but you did comment on me and I do get grounded all the time I have question Jess have you ever been grounded by your parents and if so what did you do to get it and how long were you grounded
Nate - 8-May-18 @ 10:59 PM
Also when me and my three sisters get Grounded we have to stay in are rooms the whole time useless we have to chores go to the bathroom and school other then that we just sit in are room i once got grounded with my girlfriend once because we went to the mall and we told are parents we would be back by 9:00 but we didn't get home until 11:00 and they said your two hours past curfew and we both got grounded for 4 months and the best part is me and my girlfriend only have 1week left of are punishment
Nate - 6-May-18 @ 5:04 PM
@Nate - man! that's too much grounding! Contact Childline and ask them what they suggest you do.
Jess - 2-May-18 @ 10:32 AM
I get grounded all the time the longest I've been grounded for is 9 months I have been grounded on special holidays I get meals in my room and my three sisters have been grounded to same with all my friends me and my three sisters get into trouble a lot like we've been grounded in public like we all got grounded at a bowling alley once because we were arugeing about who would go first second and third and fourth and are mom grounded us for 3 months in public were all teenagers and we still are getting grounded its not fair and we get grounded from of the most stupidest things like not eating all of are food and I once was late 10 minutes late for curfew and got grounded for 2 months and I think out of the past twelve months I spent nine of them grounded is this too much grounding and this happens all the time to me and my three sisters when finish a grounding like two days later and will get grounded again and my youngest sister Sarah is the one gets the least amount of grounding and the best part right now that Sarah is the only one who said grounded right now she got a ICE Detention at school and are parents grounded for 6 months and that just happened on Thursday so right now me and my three sisters are playing video games and are one sister is in her room serving her punishment and the next day me and my two sisters got grounded because we just got a phone call from the neighbor and said I just saw Nate Emily and Bree trying to sneak out of the house but I stop them for you of course I will punish them as soon as I get of the phone and she grounded us for 6 months as well and now me and Emily and Bree just joined Sarah in her punishment we felt silly because the Fourth of July was the next day and so we all just missed out on the Fourth of July we just sat in are rooms and were just serving are punishment and we hate being grounded
Nate - 29-Apr-18 @ 12:00 AM
My step dad grounded me for the rest of my life.?? Is it legal to ground a child for the rest of their life????????????
Kyler F. - 29-Mar-18 @ 1:14 AM
If sitting your todllers into time out doesnt work would grounding them from something theylike to do for a whole day be fair. if it would what would be the best thing to ground them from. and what would be the best thing to ground a ten yr old from? Please respond back asap really need some help on this. thank you.
hewett - 29-Jul-13 @ 7:37 PM
I need some advice Im 12 years old and i got grounded from xbox 4 EVER. I got grounded because a friend was cursing another friend... Does that make sense..Im completely innocent.
Grounded 4 Ever - 7-Jul-12 @ 8:58 PM
As a parent with an18yo 12 year old and new baby I personally think that lenght of grounding as well as combinded entertainment restrictions should be age appropreate I.e older teenager perhaps longer than younger child but at ANY age a child should know EXACTLY why, when, what and how. That's why the grounding when it stops what you are prohibited from doing and how to prevent it happening again. That way nobody is confused and it's a usefull exercise rather than a knee jerk reaction that changes nothing or ends up with a lack of respect with child and parent
Sparkles - 1-May-12 @ 6:31 PM
I get grounded for about a week or so. How long would you say is too long? I have nothing to do and I know that it will be over one day, but I don't know when. Should us kids know when we will be ungrounded or not?
ILoveCats98 - 30-Mar-11 @ 2:18 AM
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