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Grounding Children

By: Beth Morrisey MLIS - Updated: 30 Sep 2018 | comments*Discuss
 
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Grounding is a discipline technique which many parents use with their school-aged children. Though it has been used widely for decades many parents are still unfamiliar with the details of Grounding. Though Groundings can be modified by parents as needed, some basic information can be given. Below are answers to frequently asked questions regarding Grounding children.

What is Grounding?
Grounding is a technique that parents use to discipline children. Parents Ground children by forbidding them to leave the home for social events for a specified period of time. Some parents also forbid children from engaging in entertaining past-times during this period as well. Other parents prefer to Ground children only from certain activities, for example from watching television, attending a particular birthday party or taking part in a particular group event.

How Long does a Grounding Last?
A Grounding can last as long as a parent likes, however the longer the Grounding lasts the less effective it usually becomes. Children very often become bored during Groundings, and many end up breaking further rules in an attempt to entertain themselves. Long Groundings also impact parents negatively in that many parents prefer not to have a moping child at home at all times. To avoid these outcomes, parents should keep Groundings short and sweet.

What Do Children Do During a Grounding?
When children are confined to the home and are not allowed to socialise they have a lot of free time. To avoid children getting up to no good during a Grounding, parents should consider assigning them certain projects to get through. Cleaning up a room, completing extra revision or babysitting younger siblings are all tasks that can be assigned to a child during a Grounding. Depending on why a child has been Grounded, parents can devise tasks that will teach them a lesson or a sense of responsibility related to these events.

Should Parents Remain at Home during Groundings?
Many parents prefer not to Ground children because they feel that their own lives are impacted by this type of discipline as well. Parents do not necessarily have to remain at home during a child’s Grounding, if they would leave their older children or teenagers at home alone were they not Grounded, though obviously this will depend on how much a parent trusts a child not to misbehave while they are out.

Do Groundings Work with All Children?
Groundings do not work with all children. Children who are not naturally outgoing or who do not particularly enjoy socialising will not necessarily find any further discipline in staying home simply because their parents are now requiring it. Children under about ten years of age often do not gain anything from Groundings.

How Frequently Can Parents Ground Children?
Parents should avoid Grounding children too frequently. If children feel as though they are Grounded for anything and everything, they will be less hesitant to break rules (because they will feel that they would probably be Grounded for something soon anyway!). Instead, parents should reserve Groundings for major misbehaviour.

Grounding children is a method of discipline that many parents embrace. In order to teach children something during their Grounding, parents should be prepared to have tasks for their children to complete which related to the behaviours that led to the Grounding in the first place.

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So well today me and my sister teased a kid and we both got a detention but when got home are mom gave us both a spanking and we both got grounded for 8 months
Nate - 30-Sep-18 @ 8:28 PM
Yesterday I just got grounded by my mom for 9 months in my room for punching two girls in the arm at school is this fair I don't deserve punishment
Nate - 31-Aug-18 @ 11:29 PM
I know how you feel we both know what it is like to get grounded for a long and time and all the time I always am getting grounded and it really stinks so I know how you feel
Nate - 19-Aug-18 @ 3:48 PM
I'm grounded at the moment. I was told to get off my ipad at ten but I got caught on it at 3 in the morning. The only reason why I did it is because I'm sick to death of all my friends getting privliges and I'm the only one in year 8 who gets grounded for 3 weeks for staying up 1 min later on the Xbox than usual. All my other friends get to stay up on whatever that want for however long they want. It's pissing me off. Mum says that she's trying to discipline me by stopping me from having the only fun I ever get like ever. What piss3d me off ever more is my friend said "Why not just play something on your ipad instead of just watching tv?" Which lead me to find out EVEN IF my friends got grounded they're still allowed to play handheld devices. I just want my parents to think like everyone else's parents. My parents think that if I spend over 4 hours on my Xbox a day then I'm gonna get completely fat. Even though I play weekend sports. That piss3d me off because 4 years before she said that I was allowed to play my ps3 whenever I wanted and I didn't get any fatter. Now as soon as I got the Xbox and the wifi I'm restricted to doing basically nothing enjoyable because they think I'll get fat all of a sudden. I know this is long and I know I'm doing this whilst grounded but I just needed to get it out. Thanks for reading - A 13 yr old Aussie gamer
Wolfy - 19-Aug-18 @ 5:28 AM
If your wondering why we get grounded all the time it is not just like me and my three sisters and I have a least 20 friends at my school who have all been grounded and that's not all the only reason we get grounded so much is because grounding is very common in are family all of my step brothers and sisters my cousins we've all been grounded multipe times like one time me my three sisters and 4 of are cousins went to a bar and are parents grounded us all for 6 months in are room I hate being grounded with my sisters but it feels better when I get grounded with my cousins
Nate - 9-Aug-18 @ 11:22 PM
I got grounded once for eating my sisters Christmas candy even though it was just sitting in her room and so my mom grounded me for 4 months in my room for eating my sisters Christmas candy
Nate - 6-Aug-18 @ 6:08 PM
I could try but it seems like if I do just a little mistake my parents will ground me long like if I once played call of duty and my parents said were not allowed to play that game so they grounded me for 4 months that was last year like I said last comment I'm grounded for 3 months for misbehaving at camp and same with my all it seems like anymore is my parents want to punish me for the most stupidest things like one time me and my one sister went go carting and we keeped bumping and punishing and yelling at each other and then are mom grounded us for 6 months in are room it's not fair
Nate - 25-Jul-18 @ 12:17 AM
Nate - Your Question:
Hello it's Nate again and I just got ungrounded before camp and then I went to camp I come back and my mom found out I got in two fights teased lots of people lied to people and lots of other things so when my mom found out so for my punishment she grounded me for 3 months I'm my room and so from July 21 to October 21 and I'm just sitting in my room right now and when my sister came back she did pretty much the same thing I did and my mom decided for her punishment she also grounded her for 3 months to her room from July 21 to October 21 and right now she's just sitting in her room were so bored

Our Response:
Hi again Nate. Grounding clearly doesn't work for you as you continue to misbehave. Your parents could maybe look at other more constructive forms "punishment". Have you tried behaving like an "angel" when sent to camp etc? You might surprise yourself and your parents.
KidsBehaviour - 24-Jul-18 @ 10:25 AM
Hello it's Nate again and I just got ungrounded before camp and then I went to camp I come back and my mom found out I got in two fights teased lots of people lied to people and lots of other things so when my mom found out so for my punishment she grounded me for 3 months I'm my room and so from July 21 to October 21 and I'm just sitting in my room right now and when my sister came back she did pretty much the same thing I did and my mom decided for her punishment she also grounded her for 3 months to her room from July 21 to October 21 and right now she's just sitting in her room were so bored
Nate - 23-Jul-18 @ 2:19 AM
If you guys didn't know I hated my teenager years because I problay spent 75 percent of them grounded in my room all of my friends have been grounded and my three sisters one time got in trouble I thought it was funny but I got in trouble but what I did was I broke my oldest sister Emily's favorite statue that was made of glass and she why would you break that and I said it was fun and she said I'm telling mom and I pulled her arm and said please no and she punched me in the face and then we both told on each other and I said she punched me in the face and Emily said he broke my favorite statue and laughed and are mom said well you guys need a punishment as I can see and I was was grounded for 7 months in my room with no friends no tv no phone only can come out for bathroom and school and I will eat meals in my room and Emily's punishment was she's grounded for 2 months in her room no tv no phone no friends and only can come out for bathroom and school and she will be eating meals in her room too and when we went to are rooms we both started crying we felt sorry for each other
Nate - 2-Jul-18 @ 7:45 PM
This is Nate you probably didn't know this story last years Christmas me and my three sisters got grounded for opening are presents to early and so are parents grounded us for 2 months
Nate - 22-Jun-18 @ 3:49 PM
I mean I do get grounded all the time but because of how much trouble me and my three sisters get into sometimes we deserve to be punished but we do not under stand why are parents always use grounding for are punishment like when we get grounded we have to stay in are rooms unless bathroom or school and chores and I am a very very very snobby and moody teenager one time I was being rude to my grandma and my mom grounded me for 2 months and one time I forgot to take out the garage and the dog and my mom grounded me for 2 months also and one time me and my three sisters were told to clean the house and are rooms while are mom was at work and we didn't do anything and are mom grounded us for 5 months I get in so much trouble and that's why I get grounded so much
Nate - 7-Jun-18 @ 12:25 AM
Nate - Your Question:
You will not believe this I just got grounded tonight I felt so stupid my mom was taking a picture and I put bunny fingers up behind one of my sisters head and I got grounded for 5 months that's not fair and one time I got grounded at a park because I spent all of my money on one thing and so my mom grounded me for 4 months in public and I remember one time I forgot to let the dog out and my mom grounded me for 2 months and problay spent most of my teenagers years grounded in my room

Our Response:
That really is too much "grounding" in our opinion. Talk to one of your school teachers or another trusted adult about this.
KidsBehaviour - 4-Jun-18 @ 10:23 AM
you will not believe this I just got grounded tonight I felt so stupid my mom was taking a picture and I put bunny fingers up behind one of my sisters head and I got grounded for 5 months that's not fair and one time I got grounded at a park because I spent all of my money on one thing and so my mom grounded me for 4 months in public and I remember one time I forgot to let the dog out and my mom grounded me for 2 months and problay spent most of my teenagers years grounded in my room
Nate - 3-Jun-18 @ 5:26 AM
Ya I don't think it's fair to ground your kids and guess what every time I do something bad or act up my parents always keep me grounded as my punishment and I the worst part is I'm going to kennywood this Friday but I can't now because I just got grounded today for 3 months because I broke something very expensive and now I can't go to kennywood I hate being grounded all the time
Nate - 26-May-18 @ 6:34 PM
im grounded for 1whole month for wearing mskeup is this fair
lolo - 23-May-18 @ 9:50 PM
Ya I know you mean I'm grounded for a month right now and I can't go with my friends to a park today and I think your parents should let you go it's not fair you've been planning it for a couple weeks now you said and if you didn't now I get grounded all the time
Nate - 14-May-18 @ 8:16 PM
Owen - Your Question:
I am grounded for two weeks it has been one week and all of my friends had arranged a meet up for weeks and I’m not aloud to go is this fair?

Our Response:
It would probably be considered fair for parents to ground you if you did something that you knew was wrong and you knew that grounding was a potential consequence.
KidsBehaviour - 14-May-18 @ 10:38 AM
I am grounded for two weeks it has been one week and all of my friends had arranged a meet up for weeks and I’m not aloud to go is this fair?
Owen - 13-May-18 @ 11:29 AM
And when I get grounded if I ask when will my punishment be over they'll ground me longer I usually get grounded by my mom and even sometimes by my grandma and even my friends parents and I get grounded a lot because I'm always acting bad and I'm snobby and I don't listen and when someone tells me to do something I usually ignore their directions I'm also very moody and I once got got grounded with five of my friends because we were having a sleepover and we sneak out and when we came back they grounded us all for 4 months I get grounded all the time
Nate - 12-May-18 @ 1:13 AM
I don't mean to be rude or upset you but you did comment on me and I do get grounded all the time I have question Jess have you ever been grounded by your parents and if so what did you do to get it and how long were you grounded
Nate - 8-May-18 @ 10:59 PM
Also when me and my three sisters get Grounded we have to stay in are rooms the whole time useless we have to chores go to the bathroom and school other then that we just sit in are room i once got grounded with my girlfriend once because we went to the mall and we told are parents we would be back by 9:00 but we didn't get home until 11:00 and they said your two hours past curfew and we both got grounded for 4 months and the best part is me and my girlfriend only have 1week left of are punishment
Nate - 6-May-18 @ 5:04 PM
@Nate - man! that's too much grounding! Contact Childline and ask them what they suggest you do.
Jess - 2-May-18 @ 10:32 AM
I get grounded all the time the longest I've been grounded for is 9 months I have been grounded on special holidays I get meals in my room and my three sisters have been grounded to same with all my friends me and my three sisters get into trouble a lot like we've been grounded in public like we all got grounded at a bowling alley once because we were arugeing about who would go first second and third and fourth and are mom grounded us for 3 months in public were all teenagers and we still are getting grounded its not fair and we get grounded from of the most stupidest things like not eating all of are food and I once was late 10 minutes late for curfew and got grounded for 2 months and I think out of the past twelve months I spent nine of them grounded is this too much grounding and this happens all the time to me and my three sisters when finish a grounding like two days later and will get grounded again and my youngest sister Sarah is the one gets the least amount of grounding and the best part right now that Sarah is the only one who said grounded right now she got a ICE Detention at school and are parents grounded for 6 months and that just happened on Thursday so right now me and my three sisters are playing video games and are one sister is in her room serving her punishment and the next day me and my two sisters got grounded because we just got a phone call from the neighbor and said I just saw Nate Emily and Bree trying to sneak out of the house but I stop them for you of course I will punish them as soon as I get of the phone and she grounded us for 6 months as well and now me and Emily and Bree just joined Sarah in her punishment we felt silly because the Fourth of July was the next day and so we all just missed out on the Fourth of July we just sat in are rooms and were just serving are punishment and we hate being grounded
Nate - 29-Apr-18 @ 12:00 AM
My step dad grounded me for the rest of my life.?? Is it legal to ground a child for the rest of their life????????????
Kyler F. - 29-Mar-18 @ 1:14 AM
If sitting your todllers into time out doesnt work would grounding them from something theylike to do for a whole day be fair. if it would what would be the best thing to ground them from. and what would be the best thing to ground a ten yr old from? Please respond back asap really need some help on this. thank you.
hewett - 29-Jul-13 @ 7:37 PM
I need some advice Im 12 years old and i got grounded from xbox 4 EVER. I got grounded because a friend was cursing another friend... Does that make sense..Im completely innocent.
Grounded 4 Ever - 7-Jul-12 @ 8:58 PM
As a parent with an18yo 12 year old and new baby I personally think that lenght of grounding as well as combinded entertainment restrictions should be age appropreate I.e older teenager perhaps longer than younger child but at ANY age a child should know EXACTLY why, when, what and how. That's why the grounding when it stops what you are prohibited from doing and how to prevent it happening again. That way nobody is confused and it's a usefull exercise rather than a knee jerk reaction that changes nothing or ends up with a lack of respect with child and parent
Sparkles - 1-May-12 @ 6:31 PM
I get grounded for about a week or so. How long would you say is too long? I have nothing to do and I know that it will be over one day, but I don't know when. Should us kids know when we will be ungrounded or not?
ILoveCats98 - 30-Mar-11 @ 2:18 AM
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